New month, new focus for Tuesday evenings. Last month we focused on Ahimsa and nonviolence. Take a moment to look back in the archives if you’d like to do a little reading about our meditations :).
August finds us now meditating on Satya. Satya is often translated to mean “truthfulness.” In last night’s class, we focused on two words. Nice and real. I struggle with being nice. I fall into the trap of putting others and their thoughts, feelings, emotions above mine most of the time. Being a middle school math/science teacher and a yoga instructor, you would think that being nice would be an excellent personality characteristic in leading groups of people. But in doing so, I’m not being truthful to myself or to that person. In the meditation below, I found myself rethinking how I interact with others and also myself. It is very easy to fall into the trap of saying nice things to ourselves to get us through the day. I’m definitely guilty of this. There is a lot of power in being “real.” Read below and I hope to practice with you soon!
Be Real Rather than Nice
Mantra – I honor the present moment.
“A lie would make no sense unless the truth was felt to be dangerous.”
Why do we lie? Are we afraid to hurt someone’s feelings or afraid if we told the truth we would not be liked or admired anymore?
Nice is an illusion, a cloak hiding lies. It is an imposed image of what one thinks they should be. It is a packaging of self in a presentable box, imposed by an outer authority. People who are “nice” hold truth inside until they reach a breaking point and then they become dangerously inappropriate.
Real is something we might not always like in another, but we come to know there will be no surprises. Real, though not always pleasant, is trustworthy.
What is driving you to distort yourself or silence yourself to say yes when you mean no? What is so dangerous in the moment about the truth that you are choosing to lie?
Book – “The Yamas and Niyamas” by Deborah Adele