Taming Our Indulgence (Part 2)
Mantra – I have a right to face my life.
Sometimes the feel of need is sadness. I found this experience to be true for me when my mother died. While my mother was alive, one of our favorite things to do together was to stay up late into the night watching a movie and eating ice cream. After her death, I found myself “craving” late night movies and ice cream. When I checked in with my body, it was clear that I was tired and full. In truth, I was missing my mom and I needed to face the grief. To indulge in a movie and ice cream would have left me with excess weariness in my body and excess food in my stomach. And I would still be missing my mom. I needed to separate my mind’s story from my body’s needs and simply let myself cry.
If we are feeding our mental stories and have moved past bodily comfort, we are in addiction and out of harmony. Nonexcess is not about nonenjoyment. It is actually about enjoyment and pleasure in its fullest experience. Are you eating the food, or is the food eating you? Are you doing the activity, or is the activity doing you? Can you enjoy pleasure without excess? In answering these questions, we have to be able to discern between what the body needs in the moment and the story our mind is telling us. ( I don’t know about you, but I have personally noticed that sugar, salt and caffeine create more mind stories than lettuce does!) We also must be fearless in facing our sadness, grief, and disappointments without needing to soothe them with food or other means.
Book – “The Yamas and Niyamas” by Deborah Adele