As with all things, there is a superficial layer and a layer that goes much deeper. There is the epidermis on the surface and then the dermis as we dig deeper anatomically. Purity is the same way. On the surface, we might initially think of physical purity in the sense of cleanliness and sexual purity. As we head farther down, we start to look at purity on an emotional and spiritual level. Our purity is relational.
As a middle school educator and a human being, I see different levels of understanding regarding purity. It doesn’t matter the level of maturity, we all experience relational purity. When we sit down for a family meal, interact with a neighbor, get rear-ended at a stop sign, or even get into an argument with a co-worker, these are all moments of relational purity. We have an opportunity to bring our past or our present into the moment. If the past attends, then we might stain an amazing opportunity. If the present attends, then we have an opportunity to experience joy, love, peace and who knows what else!
Our past can cause us to want to fix the present. We act as if there is something wrong with the moment. The moment is the Now and is free from the past. Allow this moment to be free of our past and read below with an understanding that we have the freedom to think and feel however we’d like. We don’t need to be fixed and we don’t need to fix others.. We’re already beautiful and so are the people we interact with. We can strive to be pure with the Now and interact with it with our true self :). Each moment is new! Namaste!
SAUCHA – Purity as Relational
Purity is not our attempt to make something different than it is; rather it is to be pure with it, as it is in the moment. We fail this guideline in any of our attempts to change, judge, criticize, alter, control, manipulate, pretend, be disappointed or check out.
When our thoughts or actions are presumptive like this we actually stain the purity of the moment. When we find ourselves stuck in a traffic jam, disappointed with our meal, tripping over messes in the house, or dealing with a crabby family member, we are invited to simply be with these times in a pure way, not to judge them as impure moments.
So stop imposing our staleness on things.
Matthew Sanford, speaking from the experience of an accident that left him paralyzed from the waist down, says,
“I am not afraid of my sadness. My sadness is an incredible gift that allows me to be with people who are suffering without trying to fix them.”
Being pure with all the pieces of ourselves increases our staying power with our own suffering, intimacy, joy, boredom, pain and anxiety. We become safe with ourselves, and we become a safe place for others. We become a person who can comfortably and compassionately sit with another without the need to fix them.