Who drives our performance … spectators or us?
Modern society does not like to accept us for who we are. It will constantly distract us from who we are to build a persona that does not fit us. It would like for us to fit it’s perceived reality and consequently destroy our authentic self in an attempt to appease the masses. It will yell and scream at us in our moments of failure and display jealousy in our moments of success. Is there a way to appease the world around us?
No. An answer of “no” to that question drives a stress response in our bodies. We want to be loved and admired. When we cannot meet the requirements of others, we become stressed and our bodies suffer. It is our deepest fear that we are powerful in who we are, but the world will not accept who we are. So a different question should then be asked. Should I do what I have been coached to do?
Throughout life we have mentors and friends that allow us to bring our authentic self out for the world to see. We all receive coaching to find the depth of ourselves. Re-frame the thought process and our intention. Our performance and life are not for others. They are for us. Step out, be who we are right now and let our abilities define us. Embrace our abilities, our role and give weight to that which we can control (Interval pace, stick handling, cross-over, training, etc). The reactions of others are for them. Look in the mirror … what have you been coached to do?
BOOK – “The Champion’s Mind: How Great Athletes think, train and thrive.” by Jim Afremow
Do What You Have Been Coached to Do!
“Your job when you play is not to win or please others – that’s beyond your control. Instead, your job is to do what you have been coached to do by carrying out your specific assignments with the right attitude to the best of your abilities – that’s within your control.
Know what your job is and do your job.
Knowing your responsibilities and doing your job is how you can magnify the relevant aspects of your performance while shrinking everything that is irrelevant.
Embracing your role on the team is how you can be true to what it is you are doing.