Tuesdays @ Triad Fitness/Thomasville YMCA – 8.5.14 (Satya – Being Real Rather than Nice)

New month, new focus for Tuesday evenings.  Last month we focused on Ahimsa and nonviolence.  Take a moment to look back in the archives if you’d like to do a little reading about our meditations :).

August finds us now meditating on Satya.  Satya is often translated to mean “truthfulness.”  In last night’s class, we focused on two words.  Nice and real.  I struggle with being nice.  I fall into the trap of putting others and their thoughts, feelings, emotions above mine most of the time.  Being a middle school math/science teacher and a yoga instructor, you would think that being nice would be an excellent personality characteristic in leading groups of people.  But in doing so, I’m not being truthful to myself or to that person.  In the meditation below, I found myself rethinking how I interact with others and also myself.  It is very easy to fall into the trap of saying nice things to ourselves to get us through the day.  I’m definitely guilty of this.  There is a lot of power in being “real.”  Read below and I hope to practice with you soon!

Be Real Rather than Nice

Mantra – I honor the present moment.

“A lie would make no sense unless the truth was felt to be dangerous.”

Why do we lie?  Are we afraid to hurt someone’s feelings or afraid if we told the truth we would not be liked or admired anymore?

Nice is an illusion, a cloak hiding lies.  It is an imposed image of what one thinks they should be.  It is a packaging of self in a presentable box, imposed by an outer authority.  People who are “nice” hold truth inside until they reach a breaking point and then they become dangerously inappropriate.

Real is something we might not always like in another, but we come to know there will be no surprises.  Real, though not always pleasant, is trustworthy.  

What is driving you to distort yourself or silence yourself to say yes when you mean no?  What is so dangerous in the moment about the truth that you are choosing to lie?

Book – “The Yamas and Niyamas” by Deborah Adele

 

Tuesdays @ Triad Fitness/Thomasville YMCA – 7.22.14 (Ahimsa – Self Love)

Another great night at the Triad Fitness Center and the Thomasville YMCA.  It still amazes me that we went through the seven chakras in seven months and now are almost done with our first month of the Yamas and Niyamas. 

For me, self love is a very tricky subject.  I feel like I do a pretty good job of supporting myself in my job (middle school math/science teacher), in leading yoga classes, and in other ventures in my life.  The hardest part for me is when there are no distractions and you are left by yourself.  It happens late at night for me.  It is bedtime, but I can’t shut my brain off.  I often let things creep in that can frustrate me and spiral into a sense of doubt and lack of competency.  I sit almost lost as the minutes and hours pass by on occasion.  I’ve become accustomed to equating love with the amount of tasks I completed in the day.  I don’t know where the idea came from, but that is how my brain functions.  I wish it would let me be content.  Self love is often difficult for me.  However, I do truly hold on to the notion that for me to give love to others that I must first love myself.  It excites me to know that I will have more to give when I can reflect during those quiet times.

Here is our meditation from tonight.  Enjoy!  Namaste :).

Self Love
Mantra
– I am excited about my incompetencies.

How we treat oursleves is in truth how we treat those around us.  If you are a taskmaster with yourself, otherws will feel your whip.  If you are critical of yourself, others will feel your high expectations of themselves as well.  If you are light hearted and forgiving with yourself, others will feel the ease and joy of being with you.  If you find laughter and delight in yourself, others will be healed in your presence.

Love lies at the core of nonviolence and begins with our love of self.  Not a love that is ego-centric but a love that is forgiving and lenient; a love that sees the humor in the imperfections and accepts the fullness of the human expression.  Finding this love for all the parts of ourselves means we have to forgive ourselves.  Without forgiveness, we carry guilt like a heavy burden around our hearts.  Guilt holds our love for self and others hostage and keeps us bound to a one-sided expectation of the human experience.

Our inability to love and accept all the pieces of ourselves creates ripples – tiny acts of violence – that have huge and lasting impacts on others.  Attempts to change the self, rather than love the self, keeps us trapped in vicious cycles that we can’t crawl out of.

Where fear creates harm and violence, love creates expansion and nonviolence and the true safety that we seek.  Nonviolence is woven with love, and love of other is woven with love of self; these cannot be separated.

Book – “The Yamas and Niyamas” by Deborah Adele